Melted Hearts

The movies make love look easy. Attractive actors and actresses so effectively portray sentimental lovers that we hardly care that they are often but stitches of a threadbare plot. Regardless of how unrealistic those silver screen relationships are, they often spark in us the strong feelings we associate with our first moments of romantic passion. As a result, many of us have accepted the Hollywood version of love: an intense, but momentary, feeling for the opposite sex. This subliminal definition has power. It sells. But it also falls short.

Decades of uncommitted love have produced a yield of the most bitter fruit: high divorce rates, single parenthood, epidemic STD's and unrestrained abortion. Society's proposed remedies for such problems? Legal reforms, condoms and government programs. It's simple: control the effects of the activity rather than delegitimize it. The sexual revolution taught that casual sex was harmless so long as it was consensual. And yet the number of individuals damaged by such unmarried sexual activities has become incalculable. Our sexually obsessed culture longs for the easy love that Hollywood portrays. Disaster often follows, not to mention poor sequels.

—Leadership University Editor/Webmaster, Byron Barlowe

Categories for this Feature:
  • Dating
  • Sex and Commitment
  • Marriage
  • Special Opportunity


    Making a Good Marriage: There's Only One Way New
    Steve Garber
    There is only one way into a good marriage, and that is through the vision and virtues of friendship.

    Principles for Dating
    Patrick Zukeran
    The nature of love is discussed as an introduction to the Biblical principles on dating.

    Courtship, Dating and Right Relationships
    Tracey Bartolomei
    What is the difference between courting and dating?

    Most Asked Questions on Dating
    Pat Zukeran
    The author carefully answers some of the most difficult questions about dating.


    Why Wait Till Marriage?
    Jimmy Williams, revised by Jerry Solomon
    This article confronts the contemporary arguments for premarital sex.

    Sex and the Single Life
    Philip Turner
    Sex between single people is common and accepted in our society. Are traditional teachings about sex only within marriage out of date?

    Sex and the Search for Intimacy
    Dick Purnell
    The author addresses the relationship between sex, love and intimacy.

    Safe Sex and the Facts
    Raymond G. Bohlin, Ph.D.
    Is "safe sex" an enjoyable encounter without consequences? Is it the answer to the problem of STD's? The author gives another side to this contemporary discussion.

    Why Wait for Sex?
    Alice Fryling
    The author presents a powerful statement about the place of sex in a relationship.

    Dynamic Sex: Unlocking the Secret to Love
    Rusty Wright
    The author discusses the proper context for sex.


    Dr. Wade F. Horn
    Although part of a larger work, this section on marriage contains some interesting statistics on this endangered institution.

    The Abolition of Marriage
    Kari Jenson Gold
    Did the institution of marriage crumble on its own or was it dismantled intentionally? Kari Jenson Gold reviews Maggie Gallagher's book, The Abolition of Marriage, which tries to answer that question.

    Kerby Anderson
    Popular culture tends to glorify adulterous acts. This articles reveals the myths surrounding adultery and offers some helpful guidance in preventing unfaithfulness.

    I Do?
    David Blankenhorn
    It is common for couples today to customize the vows for their wedding. Do the words that they select have anything to do with their actual marriage?

    Marriage Reminders
    Jerry Solomon
    The communication and responsibilities in marriage, as well as those little extras, are discussed in this article.

    A Weekend for Reflection Upon a Life of Relationship
    John H. Stoll, Th.M., Ph.D
    Most married couples do not understand the basic principles on which marriage is based. It is good to take some time to learn them. The discussion here provides a step in that direction.

    Steps to Healing a Marriage
    John H. Stoll, Th.M., Ph.D
    Many relationships today are in need of healing, especially marriages. Here are some practical steps to starting the process of ending the pain.


    Dr. John Stoll, Executive Director of A.S.K., Inc., a professional counseling and Bible teaching organization, is making himself available via email to those who have specific questions in the areas of dating, sex and commitment, and marriage. Over the past 45 years he has been a professor in five Christian Colleges/Seminaries, as both a Theologian and Marriage and Family Therapist. For the past 18 years he has been the Director of a Christian Psychological Clinic in Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN. A complete resume is available.

    Send an email to Dr. Stoll.

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